In all this world, there is nothing more important than appreciating the preciousness of our human embodiment and doing all we can to increase health and happiness for ourselves and others - Tarthang Tulku

Friday, March 5, 2010

Guide to Dating a Yoga Goddess: Damsels, Dharma, & Distress

Ok, boys, gentleman, not so gentle men, knights in shining armor, pimps and playas. You’ve see us in the gym, in yoga studios or magazines or on TV. Maybe you’ve even taken our classes--we yoginis, the flexible dare-devils on a spiritual mission who seem to float around the world so freely. We’re a different breed. Most of us are born travelers, nomads even. Most of us don’t like societal rules and conventions. And most of us don’t adhere to them and have dedicated our lives to living outside boxes in some way or another. This is a beautiful thing that many men find intoxicating and exhilarating, until they realize that it also scares the shit out of them. This is true especially for the kind who wear ties.

For the multi-talented beautiful Yoga Goddess, finding a life partner who is traveling down the same road or wants to walk hand-in-hand with a Yoga Goddess on her journey is much more difficult for her than any forearm balance.Yoga Goddess, more specifically, a woman from a Western civilization who teaches yoga for a living, especially in a metropolis of some kind, is a complicated creature who has elected to remove her Western goggles and instead apply and be guided by Eastern philosophies and practices of self-actualization.

This makes her an intriguing and complicated creature to most men, but I assure you, she is not entirely inscrutable. You have only to understand that underneath her yogi persona, your Yoga Goddess was probably fed fairy tales for most of her life, where damsels in distress waited to be rescued by the Prince. Now she is grown up and she is a Yoga Goddess, a yogi who has discovered her dharma ( this is the Sanskrit word for one’s “virtuous path”)and a devotion to God which has eased her existential distress but probably not completely relieved her of the distress of the romantic variety.

A Yoga Goddess can appear to many like an untouchable, statuesque, ephemeral, mystical, zany, Aphrodite-esque theatrical mess on wheels. To many men, she is bewitching and beguiling, she can unsettle you with her eyes and bring you to tears when you least expect it. A Yoga Goddess can see souls. She knows how to make you feel things you may not want to feel, which leaves many men feeling too vulnerable in her presence to ever feel good enough. Know that the Yoga Goddess of your dreams is not out to emasculate you but that it is her wish and it is within her power simply to help you open your heart. Sometimes, a Yoga Goddess forgets her own power and forgets too that a man might not want the woman he is pursing to have that effect on him. Know that she knows this but can’t always help it. Her soul work goes deep. The tricky part is, as a highly sensitive healer and woman with deep compassion for human suffering, she no doubt has walls of her own that you will have to be willing to tear down for her to feel safe enough to let you in. Therein lies her beautiful complexity.

So, here are some essential things you should know before you set out to win the heart of a Yoga Goddess of your dreams:

1) Get over the fact that a Yoga Goddess is probably someone who is a little bit dangerous to take home to meet your mother. Exhibit A:



It occurred to me recently that this picture alone might actually have been why my last relationship didn’t work. If you want your Yoga Goddess for your very own, you must grow up and get over needing your mother’s approval. Yoginis are sparkling, creative, charming, intelligent, beautiful, sexy, highly intuitive and charismatic women who your mother might not love at first and will come to love eventually. But we’re also wild and free-spirited, with a lotta bit of hippie hell raiser on the inside, which has the potential to feel threatening to many mothers who just want their son to settle down with a nice girl who won't make too many waves. The good thing is that these qualities are usually countered with equal parts compassion, faith, and altruism. Yoginis also have chameleon qualities, so it is possible that your Yoga Goddess might be willing to dim her light for a meeting with the parents, but do not be surprised if your beloved Mumsy gives her the snake eye for reasons you cannot and will not ever understand. It's a witchy woman thing.

2) Yoga Goddesses don’t do small talk.

Yoga goddesses usually cut the shit and get to the stuff that matters. Questions like, “What do you feel? Where do you feel it? What do you believe? Have you surrendered?” are a Yogi Goddess's version of small talk. A woman who has chosen a spiritual path and dedicates her life’s work to helping people unify their mind, body, and spirit in profound and transformative ways is just not very good at shooting the shit with strangers and will tend to fire away questions that get right to the heart of the matter. If you need her to tone down the yoga talk, simply brief her before dinner with your boss. You can take her to work functions and she will do just fine for a while, but you might hear her take very deep loud audible breaths throughout the course of the night to manage her sensitivity to the noise and heavy lifting of bullshitting. Keep in mind, in her line of work, she meets people for the first time on the floor in sweatpants and spends her days reading about God and breathing. So, don't be surprised if she might need to go and do a headstand in the corner after a few vodka tonics to handle the change of scenery and relax her face from all the fake smiling.

3) Yoga Goddesses consistently crave and create adventure for themselves and others.

Yogis by nature are adventurous so if you’re not willing to be adventurous, in all kinds of ways, if you need to play it safe because you’re afraid of what people will think, then the Yoga Goddess is not for you and she probably won’t date you anyway. For the Yoga Goddess, it is not enough to simply like the idea of adventure. She will test your strength, she will keep you on your toes, she will love it if you surprise her just as much as she surprises you. If you’re a stable, steady kind of man, she will love you for your groundedness but ask you to abandon it on occasion in the name of faith, courage, and wisdom. That’s just how it goes. One of the most romantic things you can do for a Yoga Goddess is to plan a trip for the two of you and surprise her with it. She is used to taking the lead with plans and orchestrating events. To be cared for in this way is a Yogi Goddesses’s dream. And yes, the adventure extends to the bedroom, naturally. Don’t be scared. Yoga Goddesses are very gifted and patient teachers and healers.

4) A Yoga Goddesses will turn your world upside down.
If you fall for a Yoga Goddess, it is very likely that she will very gracefully turn your buttoned-up world upside down. Afterall, she has been called to teach people to see things from another perspective, to look at things differently, to encourage people to challenge their ideas about who they are and what their lives should look like. This is probably why many men will date Yoga Goddesses for a time but never marry them. The potential for change is too great for many men who are intrigued by the possibility of being with someone so free-spirited but who are ultimately uncomfortable with what life might look like with someone who is so comfortable with uncertainly, so in tune with and guided by spirit. Someone who possesses an ardent faith in things unseen can feel too intense for someone who is not prepared or interested in a spiritual journey. So, while your Yoga Goddess can be playful and fun-loving, she takes her life, her vocation and her spiritual path very seriously. A man who earns a Yoga Goddess’s love must respect and admire her work, understand its value to humanity.

5) Yoga Goddesses are mysterious.
Yoga Goddesses do not go out of their way to be mysterious, they just are, simply because they have surrendered to the mysteries of life, have given up searching for answers for why things are and very comfortable living the the gray areas of life. If you are a rigid thinker, the Yoga Goddess is not for you. She is a free-thinker, open-minded and open-hearted. She prizes authenticity over knowledge and accomplishment and leans into the mystery of life at every turn. In my experience, this terrifies and confuses many men. Yoga Goddesses are not good planners since they are usually out doing God’s work, will entertain detours if led by spirit to go left instead of right or to be late for an appointment because of a chance encounter with a mystical stranger who seems to have an important message for her. She will require your trust and patience and she will return the favor tenfold. If she keeps you waiting, chances are she will have a magical reason for it, a wonderful story that keeps your faith in things unseen alive. She'll tell you about it while giving you some kind of exotic massage. She cannot be rushed. And she will not let anyone else set her pace for her.


6) A Yoga Goddess is the hostess with the mostess.

She will cook you things to balance your doshas and if you don’t know what those are, she will help you identify them. She will play amazing music from all over the world that will transport you into other galaxies. She will know what to do with your body in many situations as well as what kind of oils to rub on it and where to make you feel like the God you are. She will create a house of harmony, health, balance. She will want to care for your mind, body, and spirit. She can’t help it. It’s her job.


7) A Yoga Goddess is still a material girl.



A Yoga Goddess is not immune to desires of the flesh. Though she has probably made the decision, at certain points in her life to disengage from the material world as part of her spiritual training, she does still enjoy earthly comforts like jewels and fancy dinners and unexpected trips to exotic locales. And she is still a girl looking for a boy to love her, honor her, and ravish her.
8) A Yoga Goddess cherishes her freedom and yours.
The yogic path is often called the quest for the jivan mukti, or the soul’s liberation. A woman who is on a yogic path understands that souls want what souls want and that a relationship is meant to be a place where those desires can be expressed without shame or guilt. This can make her seem like she has the potential to be so free-spirited that she just wants to be free-wheelin, free-loadin and free-lovin’ her way around the world. Not so. A yogic-minded woman simply understands for herself that we are all here to be each other’s teachers and students and that there is no better place for the expression of that dynamic than in a loving partnership.

9) A Yoga Goddess probably won’t ask you for help when she needs it most. This is her weakness.
A Yoga Goddess forgets that her man is not always as intuitive as she is and might not feel comfortable asking for help when she needs it most. As a Goddess, she might have a great deal of pride in her power and might find it hard to make herself vulnerable to a man since she is so used to doing things for herself, by herself, and for others. To win a Yoga Goddess’s heart, pay attention to what she needs to do her job and live her life. To win her heart, try to support her lifestyle in any way you can. She is a giver and has been trained to do and give the same to you. She is the ultimate nurturer and caretaker so while her standards for being taken care of well are high, simple gestures of kindness, appreciation, and thoughtfulness go a long way. Massages at beautiful spas don’t hurt either.

10) A Yoga Goddess will worship God first, then you, if you’re lucky.

A Yoga Goddess is comfortable being alone. The spiritual journey is a lonely path since the road less traveled is never crowded. She is used to solitude, comfortable with its pleasures and pains and has used time alone to contemplate and commune with God. A Yoga Goddess has taken the time to know and understand herself and her relationship to the divine and it will be nearly impossible to share a meaningful life with her if you are not inclined to do the same. Don’t waste her time and don’t lead her to think that you have more spiritual depth than you actually do. A Yoga Goddess prizes authenticity in spiritual searching. A Yoga Goddess has a connection to the divine that preceded you and God is the center of her universe, not you. Chances are, if you are even considering a relationship with a Yoga Goddess, you are most likely already on a spiritual path, even if you don’t know it yet. She does not attract many people into her world who aren’t.

I hope this has given you a lens into the heart and soul of the Yoga Goddess. Do not be discouraged by these truths. A relationship with a Yoga Goddess can be one of the most thrilling, heart and mind-bending adventures of your life if you are ready for the ride.

And another thing, truth be told, a lot of Yoga Goddesses were also at one time good (or bad) Catholic girls. So, you’ve got that imagery to work with too, gentleman.

The mac daddy of the Jesuits, Saint Ignatius said, "Go forth and set the world on fire." I don't think Ignatius got any hot yoga booty, though. He probably could have used a light from a smokin' Yoga Goddess. Just sayin. It's all about balance.

Namaste, Bitches!

69 comments:

  1. Thank you for being honest and
    taking the time to know yourself.

    I took you out of the, "potential
    wife" category because I knew I
    simply could not keep up with you
    long term.

    I work on a basic level to stay
    sane; Yoga Goddesses would take
    me places I just don't have the
    ability to handle.

    That's why I pray for a sober
    Christian woman who likes the
    simple, slow life.

    This post is a prayer to God to
    show you the partner that can follow
    you or have the courage to wait for
    you until you come back.

    Pete.

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  2. pete, you're sweet. it is a prayer indeed. he best put on some speed, that man! i cherish your wisdom, insight and spirit. your woman is on her way. i put in a special request. i bet she will be an artist and a deep thinker who makes you laugh. you are plenty capable of handling the yoga goddess by the way. dont rule them out. they're not all untame:)

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  4. You are an amazing woman. I have always felt the call to Yoga, but have only gone a few times. I am a massage therapist, and I feel that we are the same type of woman. Everything that you said rings true for me in every way. You have given me that last push I needed to seriously start a Yoga regimen. I know that I have only gone once because I feel that I will become addicted to it, but what better than to have a yen for the yog? Thank you!

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  5. This is true. All of it. You hit all necessary angles and put it into perspective for me. Just before I read this article, I lit a candle and realized I want a long-term, going steady kind of relationship. I asked the Universe and up popped this article on faceybook. I often feel like the men I attempt to date can't because of something I'm doing "wrong". But it isn't always so. I am intimidating and powerful and amazing. Thanks for reminding me and for being such a badass about it. Badass Yoginis Unite!

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  6. I can't wait to read your future blogs. It's so refreshing to hear someone cutting through the crap and being RAW and REAL!

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  7. Absolutely FANTASTIC post! I don't know you... I only met Liana once, in Iquitos, Peru... I couldn't help of thinking of my brother and his Yogini Wife...

    I'm more of an Alchemystic than a yogi (although I do spend a lot of time in the yoga position where one inverts their entire body), but the same things still apply. It's like I desire a partner, yet get irritated with 98% of the women that cross my path. Most just don't understand what it's like to be a REAL person, instead of one who's preoccupied with ego, and delusions thereof.

    I'm just kind of rambling... That happens when you're stuck in an airport for 24 hours.

    2 things before I go... My new favorite saying is, in fact, Namaste, Bitches!

    The other is something that I came up with while in Iquitos... I, too, was raised on videogames and fairy tales. Only, I'm the prince doing the "saving" not the princess being "saved" F#$%^$ a bunch of broken programing that tells me that I should be attracted to dysfunctional women that need "saving" Quote of the day.... "F@$% that, Zelda can SAVE HERSELF! and come find me when she's not so needy!" hahhaha

    With Love,
    James

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  8. ahhh love this! you're spot on yogini. thanks for helping define this magical journey we trek.

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  9. I think I'm in love! Marry me!!

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  10. Love this! I really did laugh out loud as I read it. I am a yoga teacher and a Feng Shui consultant and when I read this, I saw myself quite clearly. Thank you for your honesty and wit and wisdom!

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  11. Sorry to hear you got dumped. Um, but couldn't help but notice that your Pincha Mayurasana is a bit bowed, you could move your elbows to parallel in Mukta Hasta Sirsana A, and I really want to see your left leg back in Virasana for your Parivrtta Surya Yantrasana. I can't help myself! :-)

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  12. Such practical wisdom...I shall live by your teachings...

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  13. Hmmmm, no. I know hundreds of yoginis, & none of them are much like this. But it was a good caricature of a stereotype :-).

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  14. Love the title, love the pic. I agree with Down, tho...

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  15. Wow, as a fellow Yoga teacher, this fit me perfectly! You took all my thoughts, desires, and quirks and put them into a beautiful set of words! I'm going to print it out and hand it out to any potential dates ;) and of course hang up a copy the studio I teach at <3

    Namaste bish,

    Gina

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  16. This site touched me-- both the content and the comments.
    I want to celebrate and welcome and support what you are doing here-- bringing the energy of divine feminine out into the world in a visible touchable inspiring format.
    Forgive me if this is pretentious, but I have been on the planet longer than you. I have official initials that allow me to use diagnostic and treatment codes but essentially what I do is move people, move energy, hold space for what needs to happen next with each person I touch. I started yoga and meditation at 17. have been called witch, seer, siddha, shaman, healer, and some rude words.
    My heart wants to offer you anything I might have that would support nurture and further your path of aliveness wisdom and strength.
    Namaste' indeed

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  17. lynnyoga! thank you so much for your words and loving feedback. please feel free to email me at hwestyoga@gmail.com. i would love to share more:)

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  18. Holly, I dont know you but this is freakin great! Thank you so much for sharing this information with the world. It couldn't be more true. Love and Light

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  19. Dated several "Yoga Goddesses" in my day .. must say that as lovers, fellow Philosophers, domestic partners, and buddies they truly rock. The one way I've always been a bit disappointed with them though is in the realm of aesthetics. They tend to have bad taste in art (browse your latest yoga magazine to see what i mean). Most of their decor and musical tastes are often very cliche "spiritual" stuff like Depak Chopra reading Rumi over jazzy techno (UGHH!!) or Krishna Dass (whose voice sounds like falling lumps of meat) Its like Hallmark meeting India, know what i mean?? Their houses are decorated with chakra diagrams and Alex Grey prints which are interesting things, but a bit too utilitarian to be called real art ..

    anyway, much love to you healthy and intelligent Yoginis. its my hope that once you've finely tuned and tonified your bodies and developed some decent samahdi, try and be a bit more imaginative and creative. Its not enough to keep polishing the tools! got to use em' too! Namaste ..

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  20. Rahu you are right on, brotha. I feel you. My next post is exactly about the aesthetic nightmare that is the yoga world. Stay tuned. I'm working on an alternative pub to YJ, too. Maybe you'd like to be Artistic Director?

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  21. Amen rahu, but I also found that most artists lack the understanding of the creative, transcendental and tight yogic butt possiblilities of yoga. No more pier 1 buddhas...:)

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  22. I really enjoyed your article. I feel it describes my journey very well in some ways. I am now 34, and have been on the yogic path for about 14 years. I spent my twenties transforming my childhood paradigm, who I was taught to be, who I truly am, and then coming round full circle in my late twenties (saturn return). I had an un-requited love with a man who every ounce of my being loved, but now I can see him as a "muse" of my own inner transformation. I believe he is most definitely a soul mate, but certainly not my "earth mate". Would've been, could've been...I spent many years practicing the tantric arts, teaching, traveling as a yogini/dakini, melding the worlds of yoga, healing arts, modern fashion, urban living, musical performance and expression, and creating my own myth. I decided I wanted to get married, and really live in love with an equal partner, a true love. I created him in my mind, down to his birth sign. I learned not to become attached to form, but rather, to "how I would feel when we were together..". I prayed everyday, ritualistically, honoring him before i ever met him, making space for him before he ever arrived, and beleiveing deeply in my self worth to receive this love. And then one summer day, he literally showed up at my door...He came for a healing session, and within 5 minutes, I knew he was the one. We have been together ever since, and will marry in less than 3 months. So, the power of my yoga, my path, allowed me to transform out of old patterns and ways, and allowed me to truly be present as Priestess and Goddess to meet the most loving, in the world, handsome, spirtual, gentle, man who will now be my husband, the father of our children, and my partner on every level. The power of the desire, the clarity of the vision, and the true self love made this dream a reality. Thank Goddess for the yogic path. Namaste.

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    1. Truly inspiring!! I have just begun my yoga journey as a teacher in training and I too believe I can create the partner of my dreams (if I haven't met him already). Thanks for sharing!

      Snatched Goddess

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  23. HAHAHAHA!!! I'm not even sure where to begin. This is...well, actually, your whole blog is...well...AWESOME!! This is all kinds of awesomeness, so much so, I've apparently been reduced to the vally-girl yoga goddess. At some point I think I will actually be able to form a coherent, and maybe even intelligent response. Right now, I'll just respond to your "Namaste, Bitches" with a:

    HELL YA!!!!!

    (And I REALLY love the Nelson Mandela quote, it got me all kinds of excited.)
    Lisa
    Yoga Thailand

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  24. this guide sounds like a draft treatment for "Dharma and Greg"!

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  25. I loved reading this and like one of your other readers wrote, I actually laughed out loud. I'll be saying "Namaste, bitches!" too. lol

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  26. Holy Crap! You've just summarized my life situation perfectly! I feel like I need to send this post out to every man that asks me out as a sort of warning! Love + light - Vidya

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  27. Wow, you're hot.

    Can I...um...cut my tie off and get your number?

    I can make a good praram pad thai. :)

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  28. perhaps, if you make 30 of your guy friends read this. and follow.

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  29. @Holly Westergren that was well done! I was about to shut down for the night ... instead I was led to your post, where to my delight I found a well written piece about "us" the yoga goddeses! That made me smile - thank you for the approach you took. I am a simple person and a KISS often works best. (keep it simple silly!) I think your theme song should be : Alanis Morissette - I'm A Bitch I'm A Lover Lyrics

    Love it!

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  30. MY friend sent me this post telling me it reminded her of me. After reading, I must say, I LOVE! :) I am a yoga instructor in a society full of male dominated, creepy, non professional yoga instructors (INDIA!). This post just reminded me to be who I am and it all will be alright :) Thanks! If you ever need anything on this side of the world, please let me know: elise.noel1@gmail.com

    LOVE!

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  31. Brilliant insights. Thank you. And well-written.

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  32. LOVE IT! I am not a YG, but maybe I should be! I fit the profile!

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  33. I didn't even know what I was looking for until I read your post. Now I am awake.

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  34. wow,
    this is fantastic and slightly invasive-feeling you're so right-on that it's eerie. i applaud your honesty and acute perception.

    namaste, bitch.

    ontheroadashley.blogspot.com

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  35. What you have become aware of is not confined to being a female trait. We are all yoga-bitches in training.

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  36. Hello well the yoga goddenes are not easy to satisfy but every men will give it a good try dating is easy satisfy her is the hard part let me add that a good communication and a lot of generic viagra will help you .

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  37. I think yoga is a great activity, i really love to practice exercise, i think this activity is the best option to keep our total welfare and it is very fun. When we exercise frequently we can notice a change not only in our shape but in our mood too. Actually we can improve our sexual performance. In some cases when the erectil dysfunction present like a problem to buy viagra is a great alternative, how ever you must to combine with exercises and a good food.

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  38. That was scary! So when have you peeked into my life? I'm sharing this with my new husband, who is still trying to figure out exactly what I mean when i talk about energy and spiritual paths...but he is willing to learn. No, I don't teach yoga, but I do take yoga classes and have for years. So I am going to share this post on my blog, and celebrate the fact that someone else understands my vegetarian, long-skirt wearing, energy focused, yoga class attending soul...

    Only one mistake -- you forgot to mention how many of us started out as nice Jewish girls :-) Oy vey!

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  39. My husband had an affair with a yoga goddess. Bad karma.

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  40. and in the end, we are all just people with the same energy inside, move over duality.

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  41. Hey, yoga goddess, at least ya luv Jesus. the rest is just crap with a capital K. more Maya, more Illusion. its clever, its funny but its maya. The Christ principle- as you've experienced- wipes out all karma. Its all about love and surrender. you're piece is witty, intelligent but missing the Truth of your life. Yoga goddess or not,when the yoga goddess luvs Jesus and gets into a relationship- unless the relationship has the Jesus guy at its center - it aint going nowhere, 'cept south.

    So, Holly go blithly, I'm not sure how I got to your blog just now, i thinks its 4 to 5 degrees of separation from some Portland oregon hippie tribe picture on Facebook. seriously. there's no coincidence and nothing's accidental in Gods economy. So, Im impressed by your humor and life force and your luv o' Jesus. me too. The Christ Principle is Love. i practice the yoga of love, its the only one i can afford. its free.

    it aint no down dog but my yoga of love frees me from condemnation, hate, judgement(ok,so im working on that)and fear.

    thats all I got Holly. i really enjoyed your blog. Billy Snowden hawks wing farm and organic orchard- both on facebook. friend me. say hi. Billy

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  42. I'm not a "yoga goddess" but this is the closest thing to my experience I've ever seen...thanks for putting it into words

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  43. I googled "namaste, bitches" to see if someone else had already put into print what I say at the end of every practice I do with my husband.

    haha. indeed, someone did.

    too bad :(

    i am thinking about printing shirts. what say ye?

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  44. You said:

    "...A Yoga Goddess will worship God first, then you, if you’re lucky....

    ...The mac daddy of the Jesuits, Saint Ignatius said, "Go forth and set the world on fire." I don't think Ignatius got any hot yoga booty, though. He probably could have used a light from a smokin' Yoga Goddess. Just sayin. It's all about balance...

    Namaste, Bitches!"

    You go girl! Seriously...

    "if you’re lucky"

    I hear ya, I mean, I'm just sayin' :-D


    Namaste' Pranam'mama,
    ~gurdas

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  45. You Rule!

    I just found this today...as the words goddess yoga came to my mind.
    I am a yoga teacher and massage therapist..and wow....
    so

    :)
    Thank you
    Thank you...

    Cheri
    www.advancedmassagesolutions.com

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  46. excellent---all shades of the mat come together in your post.

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  47. hank you for this post Holly,

    I am a contemporary dancer and ritualistic yogi. Being 18 and just finished high school, I have been searching for the next stage n my life. I feel that I have to find myself first and start on a path. The pressure to study and start a career asap is unbelievable and your Yoga Goddess definition is so ME!! It really helped me to discover who I am and why I am that way and that it is ok to be a dancing spiritual hippie vegetarian in a world full of ostentatious materialism.

    Namaste Bitches!! ;)

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  48. Hillarious! Yes, a little dramatized at times for effect, but for the most part, heart breakingly true! As a yoga goddess who took the plunge, this is exactly what I need to point my husband toward when he starts asking what he got himself into!

    And might I add, some of us yoga goddesses are still good (and bad!) Catholic girls! It's not an either/or proposition!

    keep living Omily, Sister!

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  49. you need a "like" button. ^_^

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  50. Wow, I can't believe I got to drink from the fountain of wisdom, so artfully constructed and lovingly provided.
    I happen to be dating a Yoga Goddess right now, it's been a little over two months . . . a thrilling ride, for sure. I have encountered much (not all) of what you wrote about, and am thankful to have a slightly keener insight.

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  51. WOW - just came across this post and I LOVE IT! You hit the nail on the head on us yoginis and our romantic lives - thank you!! :)

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  52. Great writing. I admire the gifts, choices, and way of life you brought up. And I like the statements of hope for relationship in there.

    And I loved to part about coming home to meet mom. Funny thing is, it was like a description of mom! ..."sparkling, creative, charming, intelligent, beautiful, sexy, highly intuitive and charismatic women who your mother might not love at first and will come to love eventually"

    Dave
    thedavelewis@hotmail.com

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  53. I've never met a Yoga Goddess who wasn't a first class ego tripping narcissist largely out of touch with her own deeper nature - though that's often defensively disguised through all sorts of self-referential "discourse." You describe the Beast reasonably well from within her own "orbit." Yoginis are amusing and worth a few days or weeks in bed - at most. There are so many fine cultured women in this world - and very few of them practice, let alone teach, yoga! Here's the thing -- most yoginis desperately need to STOP practicing yoga, work overseas in some humble non-yogic capacity, maybe go back to school (erudition not being a yogini strong suit) and then return stronger and more genuinely wise. Amusing, though! Definitely, and very easy to indulge, as indulgence is what the yoigni seeks more than anything else - from her man, and from the world.

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  54. Oh...yawn...

    I will be glad when the yoga backlash hits. And I don't have to see anymore outdoor yoga pose profile pics.

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  55. HOLLY!! I am a yoga instructor as well, and you've got it well summed up!! Do you happen to be a Virgo as well? :P Holy, I cannot thankyou enough for this. Its made me transfer subconscious feelings into a whole conscious idea. Love love love it, and I hope to see more posts from you soon! (((<3)))

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  56. Seriously?
    First off, let me get the more practical bit out of the way: Your portrayal of men as shallow, ignorant, shambling meat-heads with the intellectual/bed-side acumen and curiosity of a potato is insulting. Maybe THIS is why men "date a yogurt goddess but never marry one." Maybe the condescending, pretentious, holier-than-thou attitude has something to do with it?

    As a Zen Buddhist, yoga-doer (or whatever), rock climber, buttoned-up nerdy financial planner and erst-while computer geek myself, your broad strokes of man-categorizing suck. Your obliviousness of gender relations/equality doesn't currently deserve more brain power finding a word than that: Suck.

    Second, even if you did go home to his Mom, if you can't behave through dinner, and deem it necessary to act so pretentiously as to cause distress (but you're in tune with harmony and the universe too? How is that?), then YOU probably aren't fit for the GUY. How much more insulting could you be toward the relationship he has with the person that brought him INTO THE WORLD (which is a whole lot more difficult than downward dog, that's for sure) ? There's something called "manners" in both Western AND Eastern cultures (heard of them?) and just because you think you're a little enlightened doesn't give you the right to spozzle your brain-vomit all over a pleasant meeting that his mom is probably trying VERY HARD to make pleasant for YOU! She's probably terrified she'll make a bad impression and scare you away, since you look pretty and seem to have a fairly keen grasp of the English language, even if it comes out sounding like you're strangling Lali Puna and Sheila Chandra in each hand with Prince in a trash compactor on the other side of the room.

    A "yogurt goddess" sounds more like a lonely, pretentious, scared little girl who separates herself from the world and other people so she doesn't get hurt (we all do it a little). Or just someone with autism.

    If you deign to spend time with someone besides God it might be the guy, huh? He's supposed to put all this effort into you, and all this attention, and change his views so much? But you don't change at all?
    A little attention he'll get, and that's if he buys you things, entertains you, or can get your attention by acting MORE pretentious than you?

    This is the longest screed I have ever written about anything. However, your's is almost (only ALMOST) the longest blog of pretentious bullhockey to ever gouge human eyes on the internet.

    I GET what you're trying to say, I really do. People who turn views upside down (it's my job too, just in a different way) and have a deeply religious view of life and its splendors are great, but your post comes off less serene and more "Celena" (screeching weasel. google it for some music I'd play for a little "share time" or yoga session).

    If you ever find a guy willing to put up with your ponderous, boner-killing, fun-destroying attitude then I'll believe that chickens have teeth.

    I'm sure you're a wonderful human being INSIDE, but it isn't apparent here yet.

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  57. If you change every sentence you wrote that begins with "Yoga Goddesses/Yoginis are..." and change it to "Yoga Goddesses/Yoginis THINK they are...", you'll perhaps begin to understand the problem. I'm always amazed at how many women who participate in this activity that's supposed to overcome the ego are so egotistical and self-involved.

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  58. So I was searching for dating website for real relationship and I found this globogirls.com and it was really good, it is a good way to see what is out there. There are a lot of different people in different countries, but some good ones too. I had been doing it for about 2 months, when I met someone. We have been dating in person for one month and we traveled together, it is going really well. I don't know if we will ever be in love or spend the rest of our lives together, but I am enjoying being with him while I can. My suggestion to anyone doing online dating is be safe, cautious, and honest. I guess that globogirls.com will help you a lot.

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  59. Inspired me to do my own yoga dating column http://bellagaianyc.com/blog/dating-success/

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